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Life with young children can be challenging, but with the support and advice of friends, we can feel empowered and thankful for the blessing of being a Mom.

My musings are those of a self-proclaimed attachment-parenting Tiger mom, who juggles full-time mommying with a small (but growing!) baby-related business. I hope some of my thoughts help you
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Thursday, February 14, 2013

Predictability out the Window

A new mother sits in her hospital bed and tries to nurse her baby.

Is the baby latching? Is she drinking? The mother isn't sure. The lactation consultant arrives and says "she looks good" and leaves. For the night.

In the middle of the night, the baby cries, nurses and falls asleep. And again cries, nurses and falls asleep. The cycle repeats itself sometimes every hour, sometimes more. The mother asks "how will I know if she's getting enough milk? How will I know when she is done nursing?"

The answer, as many seasoned mothers know, is that you don't. You won't.

And this line of questioning - this sense of not knowing - is the true sign of becoming a parent. As our children grow, we face myriad questions and concerns not knowing. From "when will he be potty trained?" to "why is she hanging out with the wrong crowd?" we lose our sense of life-predictability.

Some mothers are dubbed "worriers" for this reason - they cannot stop the barrage of what-ifs in their minds. Others somehow learn to release control and just go-with-the-flow. And most of us are somewhere in the middle.

But no matter what, we all struggle with this concern for when, how, and what will happen with/to our children. Welcome to parenthood!